As the year draws to a close, many of us find ourselves in the same familiar ritual: writing down our resolutions. These are often grand declarations, promises to ourselves about the year ahead. We envision these resolutions shaping a better version of who we are—healthier, happier, more accomplished.

But as the year unfolds, reality often clashes with ambition. Some people manage to turn their resolutions into achievements, while others find themselves disappointed, wondering what went wrong.

So, what’s the difference? Is it about wanting it more? Not really. The key lies in how resolutions are written and the mindset with which they’re approached.

The Problem with Big Resolutions

Every New Year’s Eve, we set lofty goals:

• “I’ll heal completely this year.”
• “I’m going to have washboard abs by summer.”
• “I’ll stop procrastinating forever.”

These resolutions sound impressive, but they also set us up for disappointment. Why? Because they focus solely on the end result, ignoring the journey required to get there.

Healing, fitness, and productivity aren’t destinations you magically arrive at—they’re processes, filled with small, consistent steps. When we try to leap straight to the finish line, we forget that it’s the journey that builds the habits, resilience, and growth needed to achieve these goals.

A Better Way to Write Resolutions

Instead of framing your resolution as a massive outcome, focus on actionable, manageable steps that align with your ultimate goal.

Replace:

• “I’ll heal completely in 2025.”

With:

• “I’ll journal my thoughts weekly, prioritize self-care, and seek therapy if needed.”

Replace:

• “I’ll get washboard abs this year.”

With:

• “I’ll go to the gym three times a week and explore meals that nourish my body.”

Replace:

• “I’ll stop procrastinating forever.”

With:

• “I’ll dedicate 20 minutes each day to my most important task.”

These smaller, actionable steps feel achievable. Each one is a milestone worth celebrating, keeping you motivated and helping you build momentum.

The Journey Is the Reward

Think of your goals like levels in a video game. In the early stages, the tasks are simpler: collect a coin, dodge an obstacle, or defeat a small enemy. But as you progress, the challenges get tougher, requiring more skill and effort.

Similarly, the bigger your goal, the harder the actions needed to achieve it. But that’s the beauty of it. With every small task you accomplish, you’re growing stronger, learning more, and becoming better prepared for the next challenge.

And just like in a game, you wouldn’t stop playing simply because Level 20 feels far away. You enjoy the journey—each level, each task, and each tiny victory along the way.

So, don’t hold your breath waiting for the big moment when your goal is complete. Breathe through it. Celebrate the different paths you uncover, the lessons you learn, and the new strengths you discover. Those moments are where the magic lies.

Goals Can—and Should—Evolve

Another common mistake we make is thinking resolutions are set in stone. They’re not.

If one path to your goal suddenly closes, find another. If your circumstances change, adapt your goal to match where you are in life. Growth isn’t linear—it’s a journey with twists and turns, and that’s what makes it beautiful.

Dream Big, But Embrace Patience

Dream as big as your heart desires. Never stop dreaming. But remember, the joy isn’t just in achieving the dream—it’s in the process of becoming who you need to be to make it real.

This New Year, write your resolutions differently. Focus on the steps you’ll take, enjoy the process, and celebrate every milestone, no matter how small. Trust that with patience and persistence, you’ll get to where you’re meant to be.

From eunoia, here’s to a year of dreaming big, taking small steps, and discovering beauty in the journey. 💖

Happy New Year! 🕊️